Or fall back on your faith.
I’m not gonna lie and say that I just easily accept rejection, because I don’t. I usually try to ignore it and let it creep up on me when I’m having a bad day. Recently though, I have started to look to religion when I’m letting any rejection sink in, including my own. I have started to think about what God would say if I let the world’s rejection get the best of me … his reassurance is all that I need …
Use rejection as an opportunity for self-reflection and redirection.
Rejection can be difficult to deal with but it is a natural part of life. The over-curation of life through social media has probably contributed to my generation’s decreased ability to deal with hard news. We have an excess of positivity, but it’s false positivity. I have learned to recognize that sometimes life does not work out, or people will not react the way we would like them to, or there are unplanned situations that will arise. I have developed the skills to deal with rejection and now I think of moments like those as opportunities instead for self-reflection and redirection.
Realize that it’s a normal part of life.
After dealing with quite a bit of rejection, I can be the first to tell you, it doesn’t get easier. While I know it’s never ideal, you have to just get over it and hope for the best the next time you try. I think some advice I wish someone had given me, before getting kicked out of my club volleyball team, was that there’s always going to be another chance. When it happened, I went home and practiced and practiced, and eventually I got onto my team again. It was hard to move past at first, but I’ve realized that rejection is just a part of life, and it will always, always get better.
Celebrate your losses with others.
The Rejection Party that Downtown Magnets High School has is a really good idea because it really helps students see that rejection is just opening another door for better opportunities. It’s not the end of the world if you get rejected from a college, in fact, it’s the universe telling you it’s not the right path. The rejection party also helps mentally as well. It steers students into a more positive light because it is likely that without the party, students will think bad about themselves and their self confidence stripped from them. I would love my school to have a rejection party because it would definitely help ease the hurt and pain of many students from being rejected.
But if you don’t feel like sharing your rejection with the world, confide in the people closest to you.
I think that despite this party having ice cream and the shredding of acceptance letters, it provides opportunities for students to dwell on why they got rejected and may lead to doubt in their abilities and who they are as people. If I got rejected by my dream school and was encouraged to tell a bunch of people, I would probably be really embarrassed to share it and would probably feel shame for not getting accepted. Some things are better to keep to those people you are close to in your life, not feeling that you must tell the world in a way …